Chook Me! - For the ladies.........I need advice?

For the ladies.........I need advice?

I'm 25 and I just got a divorce while deployed in Iraq after 2 yrs of marriage because she couldn't handle being lonely but she said I was a great husband and we were together for 10 so I never dated alot. (Yes I was with her since I was 15) First I was thinking of starting slow by putting a profile on a dating website, what do you think and if you think its a good idea what are the best type of pics to put up..........and next if thats not a good idea where is a good spot to meet good girls because I like the girly girls, sports chick type, or girl next door type but I don't want to be another notch on her belt....... say no more then 10 guys she's sleeped with hopefully thats not too picky......please help if you can......all comments are appreciated

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Just live your life. Do not look for girls. You only find when you are not looking.
One may not be happy in married life if one is in search of verities.
It sounds like you should have no problem dating. Go to the grocery store and shop around. It's ok to give them your number or ask them out because the worst they can do is say no. put yourself on website is a thing to do as well. i've know several people to get married from that but you have to have rules by which you can google or look up on yahoo answers for how to date via internet. keep at it because it's probably easier than you think because you're ready and open.
what does "say no more then 10 guys she's sleeped with hopefully thats not too picky...." mean??????Anyways go out and find a girl at a........um no how about a........hmmm. Yea go with the online thing, most girls that are shy dont go out to the club or bar or anything. Only the slutty girls usually go there. good luck
A profile is a great idea and I believe you should put a hot pic on your profile all the women love that!!
I think the dating site would be a good idea. Try eharmony or match.com. They really emphasize the personality match rather then just a being a site for people to meet people to hook up with. I actually met my now fiance(also military) on myspace.com. I'm not sure if I would use it as your only means, but it helps to have a variety of outlets. I think its horrible to hear about wives leaving their men who fight. Hopefully I won't have to experience that, but I think its horrible. I'm sorry this happened to you, I'm sure you are a wonderful guy. And I wish you the best of luck!
websites are a good way to meet people, and you can also try christian dating sites for a better wholesome selection or a jewish one depending on your own faith. Good luck
If you put a picture on one of those websites PLEASE don't make it a half naked one, or a real dressed up one.Just a casual stance in your normal surroundings.It is so hard to get back in the dating game and it really bites.Believe it or not the best place to meet girls is at the ball field if you have someone playing.Ex wives are all ways there with their kids. And Grocery markets. Get a buggy take a few loops.Produce especially.Believe me the checkout ladies will scope you out and report back to their single friends. We do it all the time.
Well, to meet real good girls I would suggest going to church (even though i disapprove of this, you will be amazed at how many guys out there fake religion just to get a woman who is a nice girl and hasn't slept around a lot). A dating website is optional, but much of the time woman see the men on dating sites as desperate. The last option (and most successful in my opinion) is networking. Make as many friends as possible and try to meet as many people as possible, there are hundreds of available women out there and chances of meeting the right one by pure coincidence is very likely.
Don't even think about going on-line in search of love, cos you wont fine any.I tried it a few time, it was all rubbish. I`ll advise you take things easy.Don't be in a hurry.Am sure you`ll find true love at the right time. Just make sure you are in the right place at the right time. Good luck.
Hmmm... that's rough. After I got divorced, I took some time to really get to know myself again. About a year. And one day when I was walking down the street, it struck me that I was truly happy. That was the moment I decided I was ready to start dating. Not having much luck meeting people in the real world - what with work and everything else - I opted to post a profile on match.com. I was brutally honest in my post. Not negative, but honest. No one who read what I wrote would ever mistake me for someone else. And as for the photos, they too are honest. Current is best. Post a variety - definitely a close up and a full body shot. And for the love of god, do NOT post a picture in which you've obviously cropped out your ex-girlfriend. Oh, for the record, I've met some fantastic people. While I've not yet met "the one," it's still been worth it. As far as meeting women in your daily life, you might try doing some volunteer work, joining a community theater group or even hanging out at a local coffee shop in the evenings. Best wishes...
I'm really sorry to hear you went through all that at your age already. But you've gotta pick right back up and get in the game again, before you find yourself suddenly 30 years old, 35 years old, etc. Although, don't be all desperate on the rebound - that's worse. The military is never easy on relationships. But you know the rules: What happens TDY stays TDY, and never "surprise" your spouse by coming home early. (I learned the second one first-hand) But anyway, to strictly answer your question, I'd say a few words of advice: 1) Don't freakin be dumb military guy on Myspace #6235245165 and put a shirtless picture up! We've all seen it before! If you don't want to get treated like a piece of meat, don't sell it like one. 2) I'd say put up a pic of you dressed up (Got dress blues or something? Maybe a tuxedo pic from a friend's wedding?) , another one of you outside doing something that shows you're active, and one of you hanging out with your friends. Why? a) We want to know that you clean up well. b) We want to know that you don't just sit in the barracks playing XBox all day c) We want to know that you're not the lone gunman sitting in a tower waiting for a PT formation to run by. Like "Ooh, he has friends, he's socially adjusted despite all the 'KILL KILL KILL' stuff in basic training" 3) Think. Watch for warning signs. Military guys like you who actually have a heart and a brain really get the raw end sometimes. There are a LOT of women who find the idea of sleeping with a soldier/marine exciting (sorry sailors and 'airmen', no offense and you're probably better off!). It's like an adventure. But sleeping with a soldier is one thing, living in base housing and shopping at the commissary for baby formula on sale while desperately trying to make friends with the other military wives, that's not quite as fun of an adventure. So if some 18-year-old (or one of my fellow 31-year-olds for that matter) is coming on to you really strong and being really flirty, just know that this is not relationship material. You sound like a good guy. I wish you the best!
That sounds like a great idea and there are women that will be accepting to your lifestyle. I know that you are in the military and relationships and military are hard been there done that and worn the t shirt however it was not me who broke it off!!!! In your dating profile i would write everything down that you look for in a woman!! You will meet some time wasters believe me i have met a few. Its about meeting a woman that respects herself and has no STD'S. Find a woman that is prepared to wait for you while you are in iraq hell i waited a yr for my boyfriend i would of never thought about cheating on him. I could not bare to think while he was in iraq trying to stay alive i would be all about the place. So i stayed faithful until his return shame he never did the same in return. Best type of pics are just normal ones no poesy ones. I am on a dating site and its funny seeing all the guys just posing. So be natural but most importantly be yourself. Just because 1 marriage failed does not mean that it will again. There are plenty of strong women that can handle a military relationship. As far as the 10 guy thing i am sure there are women out there that fit into that category but don't brush off the ones that might of had a few more. Fair play for liking girly gurls. there is nothing wrong with us girly girls lol. well i hope that is has helped just be yourself and the right woman will come into your life when you least aspect it!! one more point watch out for the benefits fraud women who is just looking to get enrollled in DEERS yes it does happen and you seem like a pretty cool guy with a brain and a heart. Just dob'r get sucked into woman who will just want you because you are a soldier i have seen it all too often. I used to get talked about as the english woman no one knew about because i really did not get into conversations with other military wives. Where my ex friend's wife was like gossip central. And no topless pics we women want to see a man in his suit not his bare chest. Just stay away from the benefits fraud women!!!
ugh, i'm so sorry to hear that! my boyfriend of 2 1/2 yrs was in Iraq for 18 months, and he said that breakups/divorces were quite the trend for those that were deployed to iraq. he was one of them. his ex use to break up/cheat on him all the time, while he was gone. i just don't get it. are you still in iraq? or, are you back home? if you're home, what are the chances of you going back? if you're in iraq, i suggest that you look into something like match.com. if your home, i would stay off the internet and join a gym, take a class, etc. and, if you meet someone, i would be brutely honest about what you do, in regards to being in the army/marines, etc. some women (and men) can't deal with being alone for long periods of time. but then again, some can! my best friend waited a year for her bf to come home from Iraq. This after only dating for 6 months before his departure! Now, he's been back for 2 months and they are happily engaged. But, I think it's because he was very honest about his job from the get go. And, they found all sorts of ways to stay in touch. Basically, you'll want to find a woman that will support you, and be there for the good times and the bad.