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Why do the outgoing guys always score over the shy ones?

I'm shy. And I think, its a fcukin mistake being 1. But thats the way I am. I am coming outta the shell but at the same time I can also see a fcuking Mr Fresher is being mobbed by girls and I'm not. Ok, he looks good but I dont look bad either. Moreover, a complete loser has a girl and I dont. He can talk with the hottest girls in college and I cant. Why cant I go and talk to the girls as these idiots do? Moreso, whats that 1 small formula I'm skipping? How do I sweep the girl off her feet? Is looks all that matters? How do I become outgoing? I wanna be surrounded by HOT chicks too. Plz help me out

Public Comments

1. The more times you cast , the better chance of catch'n something, right?
2. you just have to put yourself out there - like they do. Nobody wants a BF who just sits there around other people and dosent put into the conversation. That would be like... dating a rock Either drop this shy act. And grow some balls Or stay a virgin all your life.
3. Confidence is a serious factor when attracting women, if you hold you head high and have the ability to make women laugh they will flock to you!
4. I like quiet men and i am outgoing so my friends say but i prefer quieter men.
5. hmmm, let me, see, maybe its because theyre actually outgoin, as in, they talk!!! its more fun when somebody actually talks, instead of just sittin there.
6. There is only one answer,self-confidence.!!!!!!!!! It never fails!!!!!!!.
7. ~I think its the old saying...Grab and Growell...in this day and age looks do matter...that is what most girls go off of when they see a guy for the first time...Women love confident men and men that are out spoken are confindent..even the jerks...Try and be more confident hold your head high and know that if thoes men get the girl they wont be able to keep her~~~> ;o}
8. I wish I knew what to tell you. Nothing for me has worked very often.
9. the more u work on urself, the better u will feel. *trust me*. so having said that, work on: 1) your appearance: work out. exercise. take care of ur body. take care of ur skin. get new haircut. try on new clothes. buy Flattering, stylish clothes, make u feel good and look good. 2) your mind: study. read more. learn more about current events. find a hobby, and excel at it. the more u KNOW, the easier it will be for you to develop your own ways of thinking, as well as be able to TALK w/ others about it. 3) your relationships: as u build ur confidence in urself, and keep in mind to be Open Minded, Non Judgemental to others..... u will be able to speak out more, talk to ur friends, family members, practice talking about anything and everything u are learning, or find out what they are interested in. the more u practice, the easier it will be for u to do that with Strangers, or friends of friends, and not feel as shy...because remember, 1 & 2, u are already working on ur appearance and your brain, so u don't have as much to be "scared" about. :) good luck...the more Positive attitude u have (remember, u can Always change something if u make a mistake, u can learn from it, u can always grow, and do something different tomorrow), the more opportunity u will have in ur life. confidence will lead to easier job interviews, class discussions, making friends, getting to know teachers, etc etc.... huge impact on ur life. but getting over ur shyness is the first step, and working on ur confidence will help u become less shy.