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How can we improve the American woman's character?

This question is similar to the one regarding males, plus I don't want to seem sexist towards men. lol 1) Why are women so emotional? Emotions are good. We should express them often. But i find that women are encouraged to start bawling over "chick flicks" or if their shoe is broken. I mean grow up. Not everything in life is a drama. 2) VANITY How many shoes do you have in your closet? You should feel utterly ashamed if you have over 30. I have 17 shoes in my closet, all are very stylish shoes, too. And why are women encouraged to spend so much money on clothes? It is great to look good, but spending more than 30 minutes in the mirror is rediculous. 3) Choosing the wrong men It disgusts me how many times I'd see a woman struggling with her child while her "husband" walks far ahead of her. Alot of women stay in abusive relationships out of insecurity, so I feel feminists should show women that they can be independant and do not always need a man's love to be happy. 4) Disregarding sports More women should play sports and engage in adventerous activity such as hiking. This is great for building muscle mass, and women will be much more able to defend themselves if they became more physically active. My gf always goes hiking and her body not only looks great, but she is very athletic as well. So how can we improve the "feminine" mindset?

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Let people be themselves. I don't think you can change the fact that women are emotional or men whatever.
You just described all the women that I would never even consider dating. It's definitely a majority of the female population but hey there are some good ones out there, too.... I'm sure of it. Now I just need to find one. My current GF is half way there, at least. As far as changing that kind of thing, probably not going to happen. Unless you infringe on human rights.
One thing you have to learn is that nobody can change another person. They have to change themselves. That in mind, your question is futile.
I believe that I'm fine the way I am; I rarely cry, well I did once when I was watching Lassie Come Home that was a long time ago. About shoes I only own two pair. About clothes I really don't go and shop for clothes unless I really need them. My ex husband was the wrong man; he's gone now and I've been married for 23 yrs to the right man. As for exercise I'm always doing that. It's important to keep our bodies and minds in good shape.
The best way to improve today's women is to improve today's men with 'yesterday's' mindset. 1. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being emotional. If more men weren't such cowards and allow themselves to show emotion the world would be a better place. 2. Why do men have to have the sleek, cool looking cars, the most expensive gadgets, and control of the remote. Grow up already. 3. With this one I tend to agree. Women only need men for seed donation. After that they don't need to take care of the overgrown babies along with their own kids. 4. The reason we don't play sports is that the majority of men can't handle losing to women. We just don't want to see men having temper tantrums because they lost to women.
None of the things you mentioned have a damned thing to do with character. Character is built by the choices we make every day, regardless of the things that come at us that we can't change. Most of our characters will be invisible to everyone else so isn't really something a stranger could comment on. And the stuff you are substituting for character...hormones, believe it or not, as well as cultural conditioning, make a woman more likely to cry. It's both. I have see people behave in a dramatic way and it appears to be a natural and cultural way of engendering both human contact and to speed up problem solving. Yes, drama encourages problem solving, go figure. Not all females use it, but it is considered more socially acceptable and they are given more attention when they do. In other cultures and in some families it is the male that gets more attention and action from drama and emotion. There are other emotions besides tears...like anger and rage. Vanity is also a cultural conditioned thing and the number of shoes you folks have are ridiculous. I have open and closed toe shoes that I wear daily and they are well worn. What would you be doing with 17 pairs and how do you think that is so much different from the other number? Women are EXPECTED to look a certain way and if they aren't meticulously groomed that certain way it affects their relationships and standing in the community. This takes time. Change your expectations of a woman's looks and this will take less time. Choice of man...well, that's a choice at some point but you don't know that he's going to walk off leaving you to juggle kids when you are young and courting. One man is on here criticizing divorce and another is encouraging it. This isn't where the problem lies. There needs to be some sort of communication between them and this can be improved at any time. So it isnt' necessarily in her best interest to dump him and he isn't necessarily useless because of this. not all women can play sports and it has nothing to do with character.
Haha.. I think you have too many shoes in your closet. Being a man. But yeah.. women are wired different than men and I'm sure some of them would ask the same question you did, only in reverse. Why are men so unemotional? Why don't they care about their appearence? Why do they treat women badly? Why are they so into sports? See what I mean?
How can we improve the "feminine" mindset? We can start by reciting the following phrase aloud: "Just because Cosmopolitan magazine, Oprah, or the Liftetime network channel says something, doesn't necessarily mean it's true." Go speak it right now. You'll feel better already. Regarding the things you list: 1) Being "emotional" isn't the problem. The problem is when a person can't discuss any subject on an objective level. Solipsism is bad. 2) What's wrong with vanity? Anybody who feels ashamed at buying something for herself is somebody I wouldn't want to date in the first place. Hell knows I love buying things for MYself. 3) The problem isn't so much being with the "wrong" man, but falling for the myth that a "perfect" mate exists, and that relationships never have down points or should never need any work. In fact in my experience, relationships with two people who think they've found their "perfect" match end up crashing down the hardest, because the inevitable strays away from "perfection" just get amplified. 4) You mean "exercise"? Yeah, it's a good thing. Why is that a "female" issue?
1. On emotion: I try to keep my emotions as bottled up as possible. I don't like being seen as vulnerable in any way. 2. On vanity: I own maybe ten pairs of shoes, if that. I know what looks good on me, and I know how to take care of it quickly. 3. On choosing the wrong men: I don't bother choosing any; I don't want one. 4. On sports: I've never been athletic or strong, so that's a wasted effort for me. But I do take karate lessons, and I love them.
Not all women are how you describe. There are plenty of women who are active and independent. Women are naturally more emotional then men. We have different hormones that fluctuate all the time, while mens hormones don't. Biology is a huge factor in why women do the things we do.
Dude, get bent. None of the women I know are any of those things - and your stereotypes do nothing but encourage the TROLLS in this section to continue their verbal vomit and defamation of the female gender as a whole. Thanks a lot for perpetuating the negative stereotypes that most women have to live with every day. Really appreciate it.
1. Women have some serious hormonal changes going on. Best thing I can compare it to is why does a man get an erection at strange times when that's not where there mind is at? Hormones are a woman's indication of some unresolved issues that need attention with a tad of extremism thrown in for good measure. 2. If it were left to me....I'd probably wear house-slippers or go barefoot. Stilettos are mans invention. Shades of color and a host of different "styles" dictates what appropriate shoes are to be worn. It keeps women spending money to keep the economy going and men happy. 3. Women want strength but not overbearing strength. Women want sensitivity but not a woose. We like to be treated gently not like we're fragile. We know we are strong in many ways but hate to be treated like babies when we do ask for help. "Hey your the man" doesn't last a lifetime..women have egos too. 4. I love sports. I watch and play them all the time. There are just times when it's too friggin bad that the baby comes during the middle of the superbowl or that it upsets you when my gallbladder acts ups in the play offs....priorities please.
1. I don't think being emotional is a problem. Having a cry over a good movie is nice sometimes. Granted, sometimes I am in a bad mood over nothing, I think the best way to keep that from being a problem is by realizing you are just in a bad mood. I also warn my friends or boyfriend and ask them to bear with me. 2. I have 3 pairs of shoes and I shop at thrift stores. Being very strapped for cash all the time, I spend what little money I come across on things I need (or enjoy). If I had more, I would probably buy more fashionable clothes. There is nothing wrong with wanting to look good. 3. Men and women can have good relationships too. Not all girls like jerks. I agree that nobody needs anyone else's love to be happy, my boyfriend is my best friend, so having him around makes me even Happier. 4. I hate sports, but I will go on a hike and love it any old day. I think the main reason some women are like this is because they were socialized to act like this since birth. This can only be changed verrrrrry slowly over time as the stereotypes for how women should be change. Same goes for your question about men.
send them to siberia for a year and make them realize life is not all about materialistic goods.
You've never actually met a woman, have you? I, for one, am less likely to cry at movies than my brothers or father. Besides, what harm does it do to cry at movies? The rest of your mindless blather about women being "too emotional" is stereotypical bilge. Uh, I have a pair of boots for winter, a pair of sneakers, and two pairs of sandals. You have 17 shoes (probably pairs) and you call ME vain? Look to yourself before slinging lies around about other people. That many men are oblivious to their children is NOT a problem with women. You understand nothing about abusive relationships, so please remain silent until you educate yourself. (Hint, women who marry brutes usually came from brutal households when they were little; until they deal with the consequences, they tend to choose badly. If you think feminists are NOT working on this issue, you haven't been paying any attention to what feminists do, or have been doing for the last 100+ years -- as we understand more, we're better able to improve the situation. The stereotypes you fling about so freely do NOT help, in any way. Instead of blaming feminists for domestic violence, how's about blaming the perpetrators?) On the whole, by and large, women are physically smaller than men. Thus, most men have a physical advantage over most women -- whether they go hiking or not. If your gf (I'm frankly amazed that any woman would want to have anything to do with you, as you think purely in stereotypes, and refuse to consider women to be fully human -- expect to get dumped the second she gets you know what you're really like) is the only female you know who's athletic, then you might want to consider the possibility that you don't know many women. "Disregarding sports" is kind of a mis-categorization. Most men's "regard" for sports involves chugging beer and screaming while a bunch of brutes bash each other unconscious on some field. Tell you what, you make some attempt at becoming a human being, get the beginnings of a hint of a clue, and let women tend their own mindsets.
the intent of this question like the one about men http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AgH4pz7IIzmsJMNU9s4SGafsy6IX?qid=20070427140045AA4N0n6 is not to generalize or enforce the stereotype but rather to ask how do we mitigate the problems caused by these gender stereotypes, the majority of women and men are not there gender stereotypes but it douse effect how a lot of people act and how they see themselves and each other. in answer to the actual question 1) it is not so much being all emotional that is the problem but when this emotionalness gets in the way of getting something done, there is also an issue with people (few over age 12) acting all upset to manipulate people. the cure to both is greater self reliance 2) this is a symptom of the whole females only being valued for there looks thing it is bloody stupid, but not unexpected. 3) feminists have done a lot and continue to do a lot to show women that they do not have to put up with this (and to help them out of those situations) letting women into collages and the workforce had a tremendous effect in changing this but what can we do to keep moving forward on an individually level how you act and raise your kids (if any) has a big effect. as for society as a whole, I'm really not sure.