Chook Me! - I'm a 21 yr. old college student, never had a gf, never kissed a chick successfully, and chicks think i'm gay?

I'm a 21 yr. old college student, never had a gf, never kissed a chick successfully, and chicks think i'm gay?

Basically, i suck at talking to girls and end up being the "nice" guy cuz i'm too laid back. Half of the time i think chicks think i'm gay for some reason, maybe because i'm really skinny or cuz i'm real shy around them. I haven't been on a date since my first one a year ago...and that was prob my first one in my life (basically cuz i don't get out that much so its been hard). I kissed a chick before, but i just froze up that one time cuz i didn't know how to. Later on the next day, the chick called me up and asked if i was gay. lol yea i know it sounds funny, but for me its embarrassing man. I also have an older sister and she gets on my case a lot too and asks/says a bunch of gay stuff to piss me off and test me cuz she hasn't seen me with a chick/gf. Man, I just suck at life and this has killed my ego. I'm a 21 yr. old virgin and it sucks, and everytime i see a hot chick in the street, i think to myself damn...how can i get a chick like that? is there anyone out there like me? damn

Public Comments

lmao.....i have the same problem...
Quit being such a fag and ask a girl out. It's not like they'll kill you or anything.
well you must be acting gay if people think you are so man up and hang out with guys and do guy stuff that might help
=) There's nothing wrong with being a virgin and never having a girlfriend at 21 years old. You said yourself that you're not gay. So why let other people tell you what you are or aren't? Find good girls in good places.
prove them wrong. if you have a relle good best girl friend plan a trick and kiss her infront of everyone. or go to a bar and become a non virgin.
try getting a new style or something, change your apperance, do something new
Don't worry about it so much, good things come to those who wait. Focus on other points of your life and it won't bother you so much.
You should go out to a club or something then, chat a girl up, buy her a drink, dance with her, try to kiss her. Just go with the flow of the kiss and use a little tongue. Once you get used to kissing randomers you'll be more confident to try it on with a girl you fancy.
ask sum1 out nd if she says no other people wont think ur gay anymore
i do think you gay you sound you sound nice. i know who u feel i didnt have my frist kiss tale i was 16. sorry good luck!!!!!
Ok, take it easy, man. I know you're concerned, but you'll still very young, and there's plenty of time. I know it doesn't sound very helpful, but you've got to just get out there and experience some women. But to help you out: - Women do not dislike you because you're skinny, and the only reason they ask if you're gay is because they LIKE you and want to know why you aren't responding to their advances - Who cares if your sister makes stupid jokes? You know you're not gay. - Be open and relaxed with women as much as possible. It's ok that you don't have a lot of experience. In fact, if they know that, the women you encounter will probably give you a lot more slack. good luck!
im not like you, but you need to stop what your doing and get on with life. you need to stop saying u suck and start being more aggressive. ask a couple of girls out............test out the waters.....get the feel of things. also dont worry about how u look..............just remember to compliment women on how they look. before u know u will be a pro at this. good luck
Yes, there are people out there just like you. My fiance and I are getting married in June, and neither of us had kissed or dated anyone. Don't worry, there is hope! First, do not think of girls as just things to sleep with and second try to get out more. Join clubs, etc. Focus on relating well to people as friends because it will give your more confidence to ask girls out and move forward. Most importantly, don't be so hard on yourself because this will only keep you from reaching your relationship goals. You have to like yourself before someone else will love you. Good luck!
First of all, you don't suck at life. It seems as if you have a lot of stuff going for you. You're in college, you're headed in the right direction, so you're doing fine at life. It's the girl part you suck at. You missed a prime opportunity to hit it off with the girl you went out on a date with. When she asked if you were gay it was the time you should've told her that you're just shy, you're not great at dating, and that you really enjoyed being with her. She might have given you another chance! So, now you know what to do next time. It's easier when a guy will just tell you he's nervous or shy, the girl will probably be more receptive and willing to put you at ease. Just keep at it and relax. Don't let it kill your ego, it's going to pass. You're going to meet a great girl and she's going to be just as nervous as you are! And screw your sister. She's just being a jerk. Trust me, I used to do that to my little brother, too, and now I feel terrible about it and I've apologized. He's now engaged and is getting married at the end of August. Good luck and keep your chin up!
Ouch! That is a tough one. You need to quit fearing rejection so much it sounds like that is the true problem. You only live once, be a bit daring.
I'm 18 and don't have much luck with the ladies, but I've never been accused of being gay.
well it sucks to be you. thats for sure
I say relax, have fun, get drunk, and be patient. It'll happen when its meant to happen. Dont worry yourself about it though, it'll just put more stress on your, make your more shy and standoffish. The more you dont worry the more chicks will think youre hot.
First of all, you say chick waaay too much. There's also women, girls, ladies, and other ways to refer to the opposite sex. Second, Are you REALLY laid back? Or are you just quiet and mousy. Cause even the most dominating CHICK is gonna want you to speak up. The secret to being attractive is not being good looking, being athletic, having the biggest rod, or being the greatest personality. It is KNOWING what you like and having a sense of certainty about yoself damnit! Do you think if you came off certain about yourself people would question your sexuality? Trick question. YES THEY STILL WILL. People always question sexuality. That's just gonna happen, some more than others, but we all do it, and so have you. But if you were displaying some certainty about when that CHICK called you then you would have stood some ground and maybe ended up with a date. Worst case scenario she knows where you stand. If you had been demonstrating certainty all along she might not have even felt okay with calling you and asking you that off top anyway. I'd have had to shut that down immediately! But don't feel bad, start thinking about what you like in clothing, books, whatever, when you buy clothes, don't just buy the wardrobe assembled on the manican. Look at what you like and dress yourself. Stuff like that is improving your own identity. Which is healty mayne, for self esteem AND CHICKS! Whhhhoooooyeeeahh. Rock on dUUUUde! haha. Good luck!
Change your attitude!! Gain some Confidence! Stop Worrying! Ask a girl out and pretend you know what you are doing even if you don't!! You should get a date, but it is up to you. All you seem to be doing is complaining instead of doing something or making changes. Stop whining, you will not get anywhere with that attitude and start doing. Sure you will get rejected, but so does everyone else, that is just a part of life. Even the most finest guy and girl as been rejected, but that does not stop them, you just have to move on with your life!
Book shop. Buy book. "Intimate connections" by David Burns. Great writer. Gets you to get off your butt and think differently and you'll be amazed at the differences in yourself and your confidence and what you can do that you thought you couldn't. Sometimes it's just getting used to scaring the crap out of yourself. Like, say to yourself "every day if I see an attractive girl at the video store/ etc, I've gotta say "hi. Can you recommend your fave movie to me? Oh yeah? What's it about? oh cool, okay. Thanx." you will be scared sh*tless. Twenty times. Then it won't be scary after that. The next twenty times, talk a bit longer, smile, and laugh, etc. Scared sh*tless again. Then not anymore. And by this time surely you will run into one of the girls you met before and you can say "hey! How you doing?" after that point, you're like an aquaintance and maybe after meeting them a few times you can feel comfy asking em out? And basically do this kinda thing to people you meet until you can ask em for their phone numbers and say "wanna hang out sometime?" (by the way, girls totally don't mind being asked out via text message. That's probably a lot easier for you. I'm mega shy and I have always begun all my relationships using text message, and many guys who asked me out did it that way. Worked fine for me.) Yeah try to make some just friend-connections and then friends always introduce you to new people. Play a sport or join an online forum to meet male friends, then you at least have a network to start with?... Or go to some activities or lectures to meet people, then you've got something to start a conversation with. Also don't be afraid to say "Well, I'm actually looking for some new people to hang out with at the moment. Do you mind if I grab your number then I'll let you know if I'm hanging out somewhere sometime?" I did this when I didn't know anybody and it just went from there. People are nice. Some aren't. Their problem. Who cares. Good luck!