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My girlfriend piled on weight and left me. How do I get her back?

So last week my girlfriend packs her stuff and leaves the house while I'm at work. She leaves a note saying she can't be around me any more. And she won't take my calls. I'm trying to figure out why. We loved each other and I was planning on proposing soon. I think I know what happened. When we first met she was a petite and adorable young lady who I was instantly smitten with. We started dating shortly and so on. Anyway, I am an excellent cook and I loved cooking for my girl. I would make chicken parmesan, spaghetti, rigatoni, casseroles, meatloaf, pork chops, and other tasty, great dishes. For dessert I would make chocolate double fudge cake, souffles, cheesecakes, or pies. At first she ate very little, but soon she was eating everything on her plate and having seconds. She began to exercise less and never accepted my offers to do anything physical. So after about a year of us dating she really filled out from eating so much. She gained more than 45 pounds (not all at once), and although I tried to get her to exercise with me, she never would. I did findher new body sexy: her gigantic bottom, her wonderful curves, her fuller face. I preferred skinny women, but I still found her incredible sexy. But she was on the morbid side near the end. Her doctor said she was pre-diabetic or something. In my opinion, her issue was lack of willpower. Sometimes I would smell chocolate on her breath in the morning and would find she had eaten a half of a cake I had baked. So anyway now she's gone and I think this was the reason. HELP ME!!! WHAT DO I DO?!

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Let the fatty go.
Tell her you love her no matter what the past was for the both of you while still together...let her know that the feeling you had for her never changed
Cut her brake lines. that'll teach her as she gets plowed into by a semi-truck
women women sounds jus like em so cliche
go find her!! and tell her you love her the way she looks. oviousl y she is self consoius. do you look at porn? or oeth girlz sicky...thats probley why kuz sh e feals like she has to look like that so she eats
Tell her you love her unconditionally and let her know you honestly do.
well first off i think its soo sweet that your posting this, and that you want her back despite her weight gain because most guys arent like that. GOOD JOB! and if you are REALLY sure that you believe her appearance is to be the reason she left, i would bring her flowers yes that can be kinda corny but i would do it, and then i would just ask for her back and say that you love her and im sure once she knows that you still love her and want to be with her, she will see past her self image
couldn't you cook her healthy low cholesterol, low calorie density stir-frys, yikes.
stop trolling... seriously and if ur not then ur a sicko!!!! i hate men like u, try to get a pretty girl fat so shell never leave and then blame it on her. U also sound midly abusive "her gigantic bottom". WTF, u sound like a f**kwit... mabee thats y she left your dumb a** behind.
let the fatty go
tell her u love her and start cookin some healthier stuff, stuff lower in fat and sugar and calories, tell her ur sorry for whatever u did, propose now if u want to and u think it will get her back
leave a pan of brownies on your doorstep. she will come home.
i say sit back an relax if she was crazy enough to leave a man like you, i would love to have someone cook for me an take care of me ... if she loves you she will come around, jst give her some space an see how it goes
Do you still cook all that stuff? Will you marry ME?
awww! this is so cute! so anyway, i think u should call her mother, or her family or someone she's close with, and have them help u arrange a meeting with her, without her knowing. then, have an honest talk with her, make sure she tells u everything. u deserve to know the truth! or... if this doesnt work, talk to the people she is around. has she been depressed lately? been eying someone in particular? sniff around for clues :) good luck
it might be best that shes gone she might jus leave and do wat she needs to do to take care of her self and come back but you definatly need to tell her how you feel about her... but you should probably help make some adjustments in your cooking to make it a bit more healthy and make it a routine to go work out... instead of just when she happens to put on wait lol.
go to her with a bouqet of roses and tell her you want her back no matter how she looks and propose she probably doesnt think she deserves you. because she was skinny when you met her and now shes on the chunky side. and if none of those things work tell her you at least deserve an explaination as to why she left you. its only fair good luck
I would check her night stand for pot. Maybe she was lacing the brownies with that, I.E. causing what is better known as, "munchies." It's a comming thing for young girls to experiment with. I'm guessing by your lame ass use of terms such as, "gigantic bottom" and "fuller face" that your um, what, 22? 23? Tops, 25? My advice is accept it and move on. You know you didn't want a fat chic. There are 9 billion othe chics out there, many who like myself value our appearances. Some of us our jobs depend on it, she did not sound like one. Be happy she ended it and you didn't have to. And don't worry, if fat chics are your thing there are plenty of them out there. Look for them in local IHOPS, Waffle Houses and Wal-Marts. They can be found at any buffet, cotton candy line or hovering outside Krisy Kremes every hour like Old Faithful is goin' off. If your into skinny chics.... Good luck! This is fat America, just look at the TV shows we promote. Biggest Loser! That's the top rated show on NBC! Are you kidding me?! What the F*^% is wrong with this world today? We talk about Jessica's weight. We talk about Brad & Angelina's babies. When's the last time you talked about your own kids? Do you know what they did in class today? Do you know their teachers name? What did they have for lunch today? This world is a mess.... We need a lot of prayers.....
Girls with eating disorders have much deeper psychological issues . . dump the broad and consider yourself lucky
she probably left for self esteem issues and health issues. you're not the healthiest person for her to be around obviously. But, I am not saying it's your fault, actually it's hers for not controlling herself. But, maybe she went to a clinic and didn't want you to know.
you know sometimes girls tell other girls that men try to mess with their self esteem so that they feel so bad for themselves and never leave them. some might say that you fatten your girlfriend out so that she would stay with you forever, i guess it backfired, Even if you did do that and those were not your intentions you should look for you girlfriend and explain to her that you want her back. good luck
Well if I was you I probably wouldn't have cooked for her so much, but this doesn't sound like the reason why she left you unless you were picking on her weight. Usually it is the other way around, someone leaves the person who gained the weight. If she was that lazy with herself then she was probably also that lazy with her relationship (which is apparent by her randomly leaving with no confrontation or even trying to talk to you about it.) The possible reason for her leaving could have been that it took you so long to propose. It sounds like you've been with her awhile by the description of her progressive weight gain. I would try talking to her about it and if she doesn't have an interest in repairing the relationship then it sounds like it's her loss since you seem to love her despite her appearance.
get her to go on The Biggest Loser
If you really love her then just tell her how you really feel about her so she will know. And just from there.
ask her friends where she went go get her and tell her shes got some sexa rump and you want it foreva and propose there and hopefully she'l love you again
First, let me say i think that it is incredibly sweet to say that you find her still sexy in her "NEW" body. Women can be very self concisous about themselves. If she has voicemail call her and leave a message telling her your feelings for her. Make sure that you leave a strong message making sure she realizes how much you love her no matter what. demand a reason from her on why she left you. make sure to tell her she is beautiful and that you love her. That you want to take the realtionship to the next level if shell take you back. Get her to open up to you and tell you why she left. My wonderful fiance is very skinny. we weigh the same i look horrible to myself ( I have pics on myspace my name is Roseanna Robertson) you can look me up. im very self conscious and thought about leaving my fiance several times because next to him i feel ugly. My problem is alittle different i watch what i eat but being thick is in my family. I excerise but what makes it worse was that i just had our son and i feel like a whale next to him seriously check out my myspace page and see the difference in us. just be sensitive with her on the subject. AND DO NOT BRING IT UP.
I FIND IT REALLY WEIRD THAt SHE LEFT YOU BECAUSE YOU COOKED FOR HER AND LOVED HER SO MUCH. AND MORE SO BECAUSE SHE GAINED WEIGHT? If she doesn't answer, you need to find out by talking to her family or friends. Something fishy.....! Good luck!
Hey! First of all you sound like a great guy. I find it sexy that a man can cook :). Anyways, you did the right thing by trying to contact her. Did you leave her a message? Or at least right a message (email) ? It could be possible that she became disgusted with herself and felt your were the root of the problem. To be honest she needed self control but let me ask did she even ask if you could alter your cooking ex: instead of frying the chicken to just bake it ? Sounds like you would of gladly helped her anyway you can. I think its her loss, I wish I had a good guy like you. All you can do is give it time...and of course try to talk. If shes not willing to talk then sorry :( You've done what you can now the move is on her.....
Well first off, the only person that will want to change is her. And if you continued to beat her up by telling her that she was overweight at any given time, that probably hurt her confidence, self esteem, and she lost respect for you. Loving that person for who she is regardless of her weight should have been what you should have told her. Perhaps since you are an excellent cook that you could have switched up how and what you were cooking, making sure that it wasn't fattening, high is the whatevers you know? Both of you are at fault though. You were cooking excellent food, which is highly commendable, and she indulged too much. So the question is, what can you do to get her back? Be in her corner. Support her. Don't badger her with what she needs to do, encourage her with example. Like take a "romantic stroll" in the park, it is exercise, but if you don't put emphasis on that word, you will get brownie points. Try cooking low fat or more veggies, and add fruit as dessert and not actual desserts. Your opinion really means nothing if you lost her because you told her her lack of willpower. That destroys a persons desire to change immediately. Good luck and hope that somehow you find a way back in her heart, and not in her tummy.
It seems to be an advantage if someone is there to cook for you; she wont leave you for this reason. I suggest you should talk to her if you hurt her in any other way and try to get her back if you find her sexy and care for her.