Chook Me!

My girlfriend gained weight and left me, what do I do?

So last week my girlfriend packs her stuff and leaves the house while I'm at work. She leaves a note saying she can't be around me any more. And she won't take my calls. I'm trying to figure out why. We loved each other and I was planning on proposing soon. I think I know what happened. When we first met she was a petite and adorable young lady who I was instantly smitten with. We started dating shortly and so on. Anyway, I am an excellent cook and I loved cooking for my girl. I would make chicken parmesan, spaghetti, rigatoni, casseroles, meatloaf, pork chops, and other tasty, great dishes. For dessert I would make chocolate double fudge cake, souffles, cheesecakes, or pies. At first she ate very little, but soon she was eating everything on her plate and having seconds. So after about a year of us dating she really filled out. She gained more than 45 pounds, and although I tried to get her to exercise with me, she never would. I found her new body sexy: her gigantic bottom, her wonderful curves, her fuller face. I preferred skinny women, but I still found her incredible sexy. But she was on the morbid side near the end. So anyway now she's gone and I think this was the reason. HELP ME!!! WHAT DO I DO?!

Public Comments

1. eat
2. LOL you made her fat! You ruined her precious body! Something very dear of us women!
3. text her find her if she is this important to you do everything you can you don't want to loose the best thing ever now get off your tail and find your girl
4. Hey mate, Im a big girl too... Im sure there is another reason why she left hun because normally us bigger women wont leave our men because we're scared we wont get anyone else (Sounds harsh, but true). Have a talk to her and try to find out whats really going on, even if she wont come back, at least you'll know why she left, for future references. Sorry to hear you lost your love hun...
5. find any way to talk to her!! send her a letter or go find her and chat, let her know that you still love her and find her increadably sexy, ask her why she left you? say you deserve to know the reason, DO NOT CALL HER FAT!!! Even if you are saying it's okay that she's fat... just say you're so beautiful and I love you, please reconsider, I don't know what to do without you :( I really hope things work out for you!! Good luck. :)
6. Well its hard to say because I never witnessed the two of you and exactly how you behaved when she gained weight. Honestly, you sound like a decent guy, and I believe you that you found her putting on a few made her sexy.... However, being on the morbid side near the end...I promise Im not criticizing you AT ALL, but if you have made her feel unsexy, or you became uninterested (not saying you did..but just in case), she may have thought you didn't liked her anymore. Again, NOT accusing you of pushing her away, but you have to think about how you behaved once she became more on the morbid side. THINK. Even if you didn't exactly insult her, did you guys cuddle less or did you take her out less? Women are very sensitive to the way they look, so even small things like NOT showing her off at parties anymore will be noticed! Again not saying you did these things but Im just trying my best to help...if you treated her EXACTLY the same, then she STILL may have felt ASHAMED or EMBARRASED of herself, like she thought you wanted someone better. Even if you are the sweetest guy and don't criticize her, women will criticize themselves just as well! But sounds like you love her dearly,so you just have to TALK TO HER. If she's not answering your calls, go see her in person. Talk to her family if you don't know where she is. You MAY have to talk to her parents/sister seriously because they may have promised her not to tell you where she is. Now you HAVE to talk about her weight. Ask her if YOU gained weight would she stop loving you? You might even consider TELLING her you are planning to propose to her, be serious about how to you FOREVER means forever. Looks will change, and even you may change one day. Convince her it doesn't matter to you, because it sounds like it doesn't.